E : I give up Teresa. I’ve been through several relationships, and 2 marriages, and no longer think I can find a woman to accept me for who I am. I’m a cross dresser and I can’t deny it. Its part of who I am. I am resigned to living alone for the rest of my life. What can I do?
: Please don’t give up yet. You’re not the only one who feels like this.
I’m not saying that you didn’t try, or try hard enough, but the average woman just doesn’t get it. Lets say you approached your partner to discuss your fetish. You think about the best way to bring it up, and come up with something like this:
“Listen honey, I was wondering if we could maybe try something different, some role play. I want to be your Bitch/Sissy Maid/Slut/Panty Boy. I’d like you to dress me in your lingerie, do my makeup, and fuck me with a strap on.”
OK, that was a bad example, but even if you phrased it better, her reaction would likely be one of these:
She is confused, She is upset, She is disappointed, She is disgusted, or all 4. Its probably not in her mind set that a man could enjoy wearing her clothes, and get sexual pleasure out of it. Its may be so foreign to her that she sees no way to incorporate it into her life. And often she will just decide that its time to leave.
I’m only saying this because its true, most women do not understand and will freak out. BUT WAIT! That doesn't mean there aren’t women out there that will accept it and enjoy it with you, because there are!
You want an example? Here you go. My friend Sweat Shop Sissy (probably not his real name), has found just such a woman.
This is something he wrote after hearing a story I sent him: “♀ (his wife) & I listened to it together (while doing each others toe nails) and she really liked it as well. She said the only thing that was missing was the moans and groans of a sissy in the background, but she could just imagine that.”
Is that fantastic or what? I think it is.
This is from his recent blog post: “When we were having lovin’s this morning, ♀ told me that with the right shoes the pink outfit would make me look just like a princess…her princess. She’s so descriptive that while I was riding her and she was stroking my back and playing with my nipples I really did feel ‘girly’ for awhile.”
Now that is true love! I felt so good when I read that I actually got misty! He went through the same things that you did, and eventually find the perfect woman for him. I’m sure it wasn’t easy, but his perseverance paid off. His wife is an extraordinary woman and she loves him for who he is. Not only a guy in a dress (a very cute dress) but a man with the ability to give and love like anyone else.
I hope this will give you and others some hope, and a reason to keep looking for that special person. Love is the most important thing in life, and its also one of the hardest. But like anything worthwhile, you have to take chances, and get past your fears.
Thank you Sweat Shop Sissy, and your Goddess wife, you are my heroes!